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Just Tell Me
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If someone has a problem with something you’ve done, do you prefer they confront you directly? Why or why not? When you're the one who needs to tell someone about a problem, what's your method of doing so?

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If someone has a problem with something you’ve done, do you prefer they confront you directly? Why or why not? When you're the one who needs to tell someone about a problem, what's your method of doing so?

I've found that I'm remarkably conflict-averse, although I'll happily take someone on if I'm in the mood.
I do remember often wishing that women were more socialized go direct conflict, though; there have been times when a friend was angry with me that have involved whispers and backstabbing and gossip, and I frankly would have preferred a punch to the nose.
I try to be direct when I can about my own problems and conflicts, but I've also devoted a fair amount of energy to developing a sense of tact, and I like to think that I can approach conflict well when needed.

I would rather be confronted directly. There is nothing worse than things coming to you as I like to say coming at you sideways. I do know it is difficult though at times simply because some can't take direct confontation no matter how you try to approach them. We as women should be able to manage to communicate in a more positive manner.
How about this question? What's up with women that are suppose to be your friend comes running to tell you something someone said about you that was not very nice. A comment that is nothing that one can confront and resolve. What purpose does it serve and why do such a thing. Maybe it's just me but sometimes ignorance to such negative chatter is bliss.

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